by Oscar R. Mondragon
Are You Lying To Yourself About Money?
We may think we know the facts about our finances. But our beliefs can often overshadow the facts.
Our wishes, hopes, and fears can tip the scales away from the truth. This makes it easier for us to believe what we want to about money – and it can happen without us even realizing it. 1
And since most of us rarely talk about money with our friends and family, the money lies we tell ourselves stick around. Let’s look at some of the most common money lies we all buy into at some point – and the truth behind them.
I’ll be happier when I have $____.
“With $__ (whatever amount you think is ideal), many of my problems would go away, and I’d be happier.”
Does this sound familiar?
Goals and target numbers for earnings, savings, and budgets are great. But if you make the mistake of thinking some magic number will flip a happiness switch for you, think again.
When we tell ourselves this money lie, we put too much emotion into a single number. And we may be setting ourselves up for disappointment – both if we never get $_, and if we do get $_ and realize it doesn’t make us as happy as we thought it should.
The good news? Studies show that making progress toward our goals can be incredibly satisfying, regardless of whether we hit the target.
I have strong financial willpower.
When faced with temptation, most of us lie to ourselves that we’re great at resisting it. But, when was the last time you chose not to buy something you really wanted? When was the last time you made an impulsive buy?
The average American spends at least a couple of hundred dollars a month on impulse purchases.
https://www.newneuromarketing.com/what-psychology-knows-about-impulse-buying-in-2020And we’re more likely to buy on impulse, and spend more, when we’re stressed or we’re looking for a new experience. That’s probably why impulse spending shot up about 18% in 2020. 2
Plus, the 374 million of us who are shopping with credit cards are probably spending more on the regular than we realize the average credit card shopper spends about 10% more with their cards than they would with cash. And that’s not even counting the cost of interest if the balance isn’t paid in full.
I'll save more later.
Most folks focus on buying what we need and want now, and we tell ourselves we’ll start saving for the future later. If we save anything at all, it’s likely to be whatever we have left over.
In fact, fewer than 1 in 6 of us are saving more than 15% of our income, and 1 in 5 aren’t saving any money. 3
No matter the reason, when we tell ourselves this money lie and put off saving, we’re prioritizing the present over the future.
That can catch up with us on a “rainy day” or whenever we do start thinking seriously about retiring. By that time, there can be a lot of heavy lifting to play “catch up” with our savings – or it may even be too late.
I have plenty of time to plan for my financial future.
The future can seem really far away when we’re looking 10,20, or even more years out. When we feel like we have a lot of room between now and then, it’s easy to make excuses to not plan or save for it.
This money lie is an excuse for procrastination.
It’s the rationale we use when we have a hard time managing our negative feelings or uncertainties about our financial futures. And it makes us turn a blind eye to the years of interest that we lose out on when we don’t plan.
Benjamin Franklin may have spoken best about the truth behind this money lie when he wisely said, “by failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
There is good & bad debt.
We tend to assign moral value to debt, thinking of mortgages and student loans as “good” debt, and considering credit card debt as “bad”
This money lie gets us to think the wrong way about debt. All debt comes with some cost and it’s critical to understand how every loan affects our current and future selves.
Instead of focusing on whether debt is “good” or “bad,” concentrate on the total cost of the interest over time (it’s often higher than you think) and on deciding whether the loan is really helping you achieve your goals.
About half of us seem to already be on track with that thinking, saying that we expect to be out of debt within 1 to 5 years.
Wanting more is bad.
While I think we can all agree that obsessive greed is wrong, it’s not a bad thing to want more for you and your loved ones.
When we tell ourselves we shouldn’t want more than we have, we agree to settle for less. And we may be tricking ourselves into thinking it’s OK that we’re not doing something (or enough) to improve our financial situation.
This money lie holds us back and can make it hard to improve our financial behaviors.
When we frame wanting more as a positive motivator, it can be easier to take the chances or do the work needed to get to that next financial level we may want.
How to stop Losing Out to Costly Money Lies
How many of these money lies sound like something you’ve told yourself?
Here’s the truth. Honesty goes a long way with finances.
What we tell ourselves, and what we believe, about money influences our financial behaviors. If we’re not telling ourselves the truth, our money lies won’t just drain our wallets. They can affect our financial awareness and inflate our confidence. And they get in the way of maintaining or growing wealth.
When we recognize the money lies that we believe, we can reset our thinking, change our mindset and start taking action. And that sets us up to make better choices and make more progress toward our big financial goals.